My own husband, today, sent me this:
I laugh now as I read that he says "you know it." Pfft. I would argue I'm your common, every day blogger, just typing it out as it comes.
I digress (big shock, I know).
I posted last time about the paradoxical feelings of being joyfully, miraculously pregnant while you have dear friends suffering a loss.
I recieved this comment:
On Facebook today, I saw this:
I was totally not expecting to see it. I had completely forgotten I had given permission for them to use that letter. It can be read on their blog here:
A few friends, my husband, and I began discussing it. And the topic of "bravery in my blogging" came up.
"I just feel like... I've been there, maybe you have, maybe you are, maybe you will be, but it won't be alone, because I've been there too. So don't be ashamed."
I write my life. I write about things I've either been through, am going through, or am passionate about. I have receive comments occasionally, not often, but I have thousands of views for the blog and sometimes hundreds of views on posts. I rarely look at my stars, because they just don't really matter. I'm not pleading for comments, though, admittedly, I love them.
But it's just not really about that.
Today, I told my friends, that I just love when people are willing to openly tell me (via comment, email, or Facebook message, whichever is their comfort level) that they relate to what I wrote about. I realized after I said it, it could come off a bit conceited, but that's not what I meant. I meant it in that "I just feel like... I've been there, maybe you have, maybe you are, maybe you will be, but it won't be alone, because I've been there too. So don't be ashamed."
I mean it in that I believe it is important to know YOU are not alone.
I don't so much care about me. I know realistically I am not alone, but not everyone knows that. I've gotten comments before reflecting the sentiment that for the first time, after reading about my experience, they felt they weren't alone anymore.
That's what it's about when I blog intense subjects.
My friends pointed out that some of the things I write about are still a bit "taboo" to some social circles and media sites. Lots of people do not want to acknowledge them.
I write about infertility and pregnancy loss a bit. Because I've been there. Because I KNOW others struggle and might not feel they have support or someone who understands.
But, sadly, most of the time, society and social media wants to brush these subjects under the table.
I'm here to say I think that is absolutely preposterous. There is NO reason that a woman (or a couple) should be made to feel ashamed for something they are already heartbroken about.
So, I guess, if that makes me brave, so be it.
If you are someone needing to reach out, feel free to comment below. It can be anonymously, or if you feel more comfortable, my email is nicole.m.worthley[at]gmail[dot]com
Peace to you all.